Children Learning
But do not forget that the main value of manipulation – a victory, the same prize, for which, this manipulation is applied. And what we now see in life, this is not an exercise in stealth and agility, and receive benefits through manipulation. Moreover, not only in the society as such, but in the context of close relationships (friendships, marriage and family). However, experts psychological and pedagogical disciplines, note that even from infancy in humans there is a willingness to manipulate. First, it is a sweet experience of managing older, acquired at a very early age. Crying infant as a request for help – one of the brightest Examples of such controls. And the more often the parents react to the crying child, and meets its needs, the sooner the first loud cry is replaced by a specific pokrikivaniem, a kind of cry-demand.
As a result of simple situation, there is not a simple semantic commit certain types of relationships with other people that will be a powerful emotional justification for the passive manipulation. A passive manipulator (which underlines its weakness and inability to control) is more efficient in handling than the active. Secondly, it needs to certainty and stability in the world, in particular, to make stable and predictable behavior of others. Threatening the uncertainty of the world makes demands not only to the child's ability to predict, but also to its ability to structure the world. A child learns in the first turn from their parents. First, adults act on a child, then he uses these same techniques to influence others, and then to act on itself, like another (Vygotsky). In the course of which, has already invented own ways of manipulation.
Thus, it is obvious that manipulators are not born, gradually learning the art, ie, child learns to manipulate to get what they want. The most interesting thing that manipulation people are often trained to completely unconsciously. Just a sudden the child becomes aware that the louder he cries, the quicker will receive from the parents that need. This means that each of us – the manipulator since early childhood and other is the question whether the purposes for which we use his abilities to manipulate.